"You seek approval in your relationships with men."
Jen's words challenged my carefully orchestrated human interaction system like a toddler shaking a snow globe.
I knew she was right.
Desperation has inhibited true friendship more times than I care to think about. Thorns of neediness that dig for blood and reach for codependency.I don't know why I do this. I finally recognize my driving need for approval. And it's starting to deactivate.
I'm still hyper-analyzing my human interaction. My subconscious seeks affirmation from my memories as equally as it seeks rejection.I'm just glad I now know what to do.
Cut the leaves off before digging for the root.
As an example, Marandia is handling this thistle leaf very delicately: